Don't get me wrong, I love my kids. And I would love to spend quality time with them over the summer. And we do achieve it at times. I just wish they liked each other - at least a little bit!
I did have a plan. Sort of. It's not as if you bury your head in the sand and pretend two months a year don't happen, they loom large once Easter is over and necessitate a Category 5 level of planning. But the Great British Weather hasn't helped and I'm stuck!
I remember my first summer holiday as a mum. Thrilled to have a full two months to spend with my (then eight month old) little boy every single day was savoured. Having returned to work when he was a mere twelve weeks old (the archaic maternity law then stated that 14 weeks was my maximum time off - although my employer would have gladly let me go indefinitely for daring to fall pregnant in my first year of work!) any time off was incredibly valuable. The easiest of my four children by several miles (and some) we had a truly epic summer. Travelling to stay with friends, days out, quiet days at home, trips together - it was a really special two months and perhaps set the bar a little too high. Because let's face it, the reality for most of us is that the key word for the school summer holidays isn't so much excitement as SURVIVAL.
So for those equally trapped, struggling to create some precious memories out of a quagmire of frustration, here are some top tips!
- Don't rely on the weather. Obvious I guess but given that summer has utterly failed to install this year a useful reminder nonetheless. You not only need a wet weather back up, it's worth turning that idea on its head and having a sunny weather back up....... expectation management is key here. If you wake up and the raincoat isn't needed you are on to a winner anyway and anything goes!
- Don't "go for broke". A conservative day trip where everyone survives unscathed with some enjoyment is far better than attempting the proverbial Everest trip where the risks far outweigh any potential benefits. Factor in the almost certain outcome that you will end up a) In A and E b) tearing your hair out and/or c) calling for reinforcements, aim low. It really is about survival.
- Take the long view. Whether you have six weeks to fill, or an eight-nine week marathon the message is the same. There is only one of you, and unless you have a fortnight booked in some spa resort to recover in early September, you need to reach the finish line in one piece. A TV / computer game day does NOT make you a bad parent. Neither does cheating on the catering front at least one day a week. Given the allergies here cheating is rarely an option, but when it IS, I seize it with both hands and give it a hug. Tightly. Anyway chips are GOOD - the twins' dietician actually prescribed chips when they were younger, so how bad can they be??!
- Find at least ten minutes a day for yourself. Lock yourself in the loo if you have to, but those ten minutes are sacrosanct. Whether it's a peaceful cup of tea, ten minutes on Facebook or some time reading, it's YOUR time. Your sanity matters...... I've tried matyrdom and it wasn't a pretty sight. Those ten minutes are MINE and God help the adult/child who thinks I don't need them..... the bill for The Priory will be FAR greater than the cost of my coffee bill I assure you!
- Eyes on the Prize It might seem a long way off, but September will hurtle round faster than you think. The day when you hand those children back to their respective schools and wonder what you have DONE all summer will surely come. Make sure you find time for some real adventures amongst the necessary rushing around. Those are the memories that will sustain you when you actually miss your small people as the cycle of the school year cranks up again and you realise just how far off Christmas is.
i absolutely love having my kids at home , if i could i would keep them with me all the time
ReplyDeleteI am four weeks into our summer hols, and we have spent that four weeks travelling so now that we are home again and I am just letting my two relax and enjoy being in their own surroundings, it was nice to read this list and be reminded that it doesn't all have to be perfect! :)
ReplyDeleteI love the summer hols too, but I know it's easier now the kids are older and don't need such full-on attention all the time. I just love them being around and having more time to spend with them without rushing around. But I agree with your wise tips too!
ReplyDeleteI love having my son off for the summer. I'd agree with you about not taking too much on. I tend to keep day trips fairly close by.
ReplyDeleteGreat ideas, I love having the kids home, we have good days and bad but overall we have loads of fun and good times :)
ReplyDeleteIt seems really strange to me when I read about the school summer holidays, I forget that they happen as I've ended up home educating my son and I find myself hiding in the toilet every single day!
ReplyDeleteGreat advice! I have been looking forward to the summer holidays since September when my eldest started preschool, but I think I will be re-reading this come september as the weeks go on!
ReplyDeleteSome fabulous tips there, I think the most important thing is enjoyment, as you say September will come around all too soon!
ReplyDeleteI love having my kids at home (unless they are fighting) but you are right, you do need ten minutes peace and quiet sometimes
ReplyDeleteI love Summer, book marking this for September :D
ReplyDeleteGreat tips. I think that sometimes we have too high expectations of ourselves. I am an introvert and learning that I need to have me time is key
ReplyDeleteThis year has been the first I did not plain and simple dread the summer months. Emma is that bit older and we communicate better now, we do still have our moments but all in all, we have so far enjoyed our time away and our travels.xx
ReplyDeleteSome great advice here. I'm struggling to think of loads to do atm as I don't drive and the buses are a bit unreliable round here but we've got a few things on the to do list still. Even if we have a day in spent snuggling on the sofa though and watching a film, I'm not going to beat myself up about it x
ReplyDeleteIs the summer holidays 9 weeks? I always thought it was 6! Shows what I know hey! xx
ReplyDelete9 weeks?! We get only about 6. And I do love having my little boy around me, but yes. 10 minutes of me-time daily are essential to survival!
ReplyDeleteGreat advice, I think people put too much pressure on themselves to do too much. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x
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